How my life changed when I married a pastor. In fact, everything changed when I married a pastor.
You know, I was just thinking. Everything changed.
When I married my husband (a senior pastor) my life changed drastically. I went from being an obscure member of a large church to the mate of a high-profile man of God. Welcome to the fishbowl.
For one thing, it seems now; more people want to be my friend to gain access to my husband. I have experienced this “issue” quite often.
Some of my existing relationships were also complicated after I found my knight in shining armor.
You see, not everyone remained my friend. I guess some of my “friends” assumed something, imagined something or just didn’t want to continue being my friend after I married.
That hurt. It hurt a lot.
After all those changes, I needed those people then more than ever. But, they were suddenly gone. I think it’s a “single” thing. Some single women don’t want to have married girlfriends and vice versa.
“I knew you didn’t want me around once you got married“, said one of my old girlfriends several years ago.
How wrong she was.
Now, that my husband pastors one of the largest urban churches in our city, I am bit more discerning about friendships. People who suddenly appear and people who suddenly re-appear in my life sometimes raise my emotional antennas. For instance, some of the same folks only seem to call when my husband is on television or in the media. Everything changed.
When you get married, some of your single friends don’t want you around anymore.
Anyhoo, I’m not trying to whine. But, I know there are other pastor’s wives out there who have had the same experience.
Married to a Pastor.com is a blog for pastors wives focused on offering encouragement for a pastor’s wife as well as insight on being a pastor’s wife…from one pastor’s wife to another.