There is no way around it.
The role of being a pastors wife is a thankless, and at times, ignored sacrifice.
As with most things, people focus on what is easily seen, observed and discovered. They think that is all there is.
They often forget the behind the scenes” elements of life and ministry.
I’ve heard the same happens to spouses of famous people. They say folks will all but step over them to get an autograph or to make a pass at the famous, celebrity spouse.
Thank God that doesn’t happen to me (and hopefully not you), but people do often forget the unseen elements of your husband’s life.
They can forget pastors’ wives have feelings too.
Paul says it this way:
I know at times, people in your church may treat your poorly. It happens to me some times too.
Trust me, I get it and I’m sorry. I understand they criticize everything from your clothes to the way your raise your children – they do me too. Not all people; but some do.
Those faultfinders never see the long nights of listening and comforting your husband as he stresses over their behaviors, immaturity and life challenges.
They do not see the times you work feverishly behind the scenes to be a blessing without the expectation of a “Thank you”.
Most of them (sometimes our husbands, too) don’t know how many hospital visits you make when no one is “watching” or inquiring.
They do not know the loneliness associated with your life and the toll it takes on your marriage, children and home life. They have no clue.
All this being true, I have good news.
God sees you, senior pastors wife.
As you labor for the Kingdom, He will bless you in your going out and your coming in.
He will direct you and guide you while energizing your spirit for the battle.
He will perfect all that concerns you and renew your strength as you go from glory to glory. Amen?
Before I wrote this, my heart was heavy because of something said to me by a church member. But, before I could pout, the Holy Spirit reminded me of Genesis 15:1:
“After these things the word of the LORD came unto Abram in a vision, saying, Fear not, Abram: I [am] thy shield, [and] thy exceeding great reward.” (King James says it best)
He is your “Shield” protecting you from those that wish to buffet, hurt and wound you. He is your strength in those times you want to run, withdraw or be fearful.
The best part: He is your Rewarder! Who could be a better One but Him?
So, be encouraged, pastor’s wife.
Don’t allow discouragement or depression to grab hold of your spirit.
Don’t worry, He sees and loves you beyond what any group of humans ever could.
The best part is He knows and understands Pastors’ wives have feelings too!
Hang in there and pin this for later.
Married to a Pastor.com is a blog for pastors wives focused on offering encouragement for a pastor’s wife as well as insight on being a pastor’s wife…from one pastor’s wife to another.