Crazy church people and the pastors wife (no offense:)
This is real talk. You cannot allow the expectations of the congregation to inhibit or stress you, Pastors Wife. Do you hear me? I mean it. It’s not worth it. When you do, the mean people will drive you crazy and the well-meaning people will wear you out!
Just obey God and follow His plan for your life, your unique role and your ministry.
You’ll always have people who say you’re doing too much in the church.
And you know you’ll also have those that say you’re doing too little.
Ignore them all. Don’t worry about the mean people.
Follow the Holy Spirit’s prompt…exclusively. Find yourself a mentor or accountability partner (outside your church) and YOU DO YOU!
The very people who criticize you may be gone in a year.
God is your guide.
He is your Navigator.
Don’t fret or stress the eyes on you.
Take with a grain of salt those folks “in your business” with tons of advice for you, YET, have never walked your path.
I’m often astounded by people who always want to tell me how to manage my role when they, themselves, have never once been a pastor’s wife.
They have no clue what this journey entails. They have no clue what service I lend behind the scenes. Sometimes, my husband doesn’t even know!
Often, I will make hospital visits or something and not even tell him. God is my audience, so I often don’t even feel the need to tell him the stuff I do. Sometimes I do, other times I don’t. That’s just me.
Remember this in both your life and your ministry: everyone doesn’t get to speak into you and how you live your life …especially if they have no idea about it.
Stressing folks is a waste. Also, it can affect you in really bad ways.
Some won’t eat.
Others are grouchy or mean.
Still, others become critical and judgmental of everyone and everything.
but, I think the worst outcome of stress is illness.
Research says stress can break down your immune system. Stress can also contribute to depression.
So do not fret over these church people, senior pastors wife. Love them. Serve them, but keep your bearings.
Live your life and do whatever God tells you.
One last bit of advice…
Always be kind to God’s people and love them. While doing so, remember, none of them should control you or your life.
Your daily peace is hidden in your obedience and submission to the Lord.
Follow your destiny!
Note: I have no reason for writing this. I was just kind of led to write it. Everyone of my church is treating me wonderfully. Just thought I’d better say that because I’m so passionate in this post. LOL
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