Trust and the Pastor’s Wife.
That’s why trust and the senior pastor’s wife is so important. Everyone should be able to trust you.
When your husband confides in your, Pastor’s Wife.
However, when my hubby shares sensitive information with me, it’s sometimes difficult to keep my “poker face” in public when you know such private data.
Difficult, but absolutely necessary for you to master.
I know this sounds weird, but I actually try to intentionally “forget” stuff I know when I see folks at church. It actually works too.
How to master your mind and shift your mental focus to guard trust.
So, when you see people, you sort of have to replace incoming thoughts with something else.
For example, say I know a marriage is in trouble. On Sunday, the husband is walking toward me. I quickly and intentionally shift my thoughts from that topic to something in the present like “what a nice tie”.
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When church people confide in you, Pastor’s Wife
Ministry is service and it doesn’t work when people don’t feel safe emotionally.So, be careful with data and information.
Pray for wisdom so you’ll know what to guard and when you need to involve another party.
As you know, many women in our position have wreaked havoc on congregations because of their prideful need to feel important and “in the know”.
That’s a pride issue.
It’s also rooted in insecurity. Grow past that foolishness. Trust and the senior pastor’s wife again are paramount to your effectiveness as a wife and a women in leadership. Compromise that to feel “important” to people and you compromise everything.
Your power comes from God and the Holy Spirit. You don’t need the esteem of people. If it comes, great. If not, so what.
So, shhhhhh….guard what you know. Keep your mouth shut. Don’t tell your mom, best friend, cousin, dad or aunt!
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