This is going to be a two-part post called Help! I’m in love with my Pastor.”
Note: this post is directed to women who are in love with married pastors. This is a very common problem. You are not the first to feel this way.
The biggest issue is not that you are in love with a married man (although that is a huge problem); the issue is you really do not know what love is. Somehow, you were cheated or misinformed about true Godly love between a man and a woman.
That does not happen from afar, it happens when someone gave you a poor picture of what love is. Maybe it was your parents. Could have been Lifetime network, who knows. It could even be a case of mental illness and obsession. It’s not love- not real love, anyway.
It might be more like lust. There is a difference between love and lust. But, that’s another subject. So, now back to the subject at hand.
You’ve allowed your strong emotional connection to your married pastor to morph into something lustful, and frankly, wicked. It is not Godly because God would NEVER prompt you to do anything against His commandments. He will never tell you to steal or covet. He would never tell you to be with a married man. NEVER!
Again, this is not uncommon. This often happens when weak-minded and weakened Christians transpose affection and admiration into a romantic context. If this is you, acknowledge it,
You are simply confused. That doesn’t mean you’re evil, but if you continue in this way, Satan can use you to bring about evil. You don’t want that, do you?
If you are Christian, repent now. It is not too late to change your heart and redeem your future. The Lord knows your desire for love and acceptance. He can bring this to you in a real and meaningful way, but, do not allow this to continue, dear sister. He has someone just for you. Someone wonderful that will love you with his entire heart.
Help from God…
Go to God. Express your sorrow (and struggle) regarding this situation. Do not stop there. The most important part of repentance includes the changing of paths. You must change the way you look at your pastor, you must change the way you react to your pastor, and you must guard your thoughts and your heart regarding your pastor.
For example, when you find yourself daydreaming about your pastor or leaning towards ungodly feelings for him, stop yourself. Quickly!
You can control yourself. You’re not an animal or a dog. You can control your thoughts, your mind, and definitely your body. Stop at that very moment, change your thought process. Replace that thought with a scripture of strength or a promise from the Word.
God loves you so very much. And He can deliver you and set you free from this lust. Again, He has a “portion” or a man just for you. The best part is that the man is not married! Right? Right.
Trust your Savior to give you what is yours. Control your emotions and your fixations so you did venture further into sin.
It’s not worth it…
Destroy God’s ministry and you will reap what you sow. Look at David and Bathsheba. Sin results in consequences. Yes, God does forgive. But, God always punishes sin and never spares discipline. I don’t want that for you and you don’t want that for you.
If you’re not a Christian or if you are stuck in stubborn rebellion concerning your attraction to your married to your Pastor, may God have mercy on you. God never deals gently was sin, but he deals kindly with repentance. Turn it around now.
Find someone to help you…
My final advice to you is to find a trusted friend you can confide in about the situation. Make sure it’s someone who lives a Godly life and it’s not overwhelmed by sin themselves. If they are truly Godly, they will restore you in this fault and not put you down.
God has a plan for you.
He has a beautiful plan for you. Don’t accept cheap “table scraps” when God has something beyond what you could ever hope for think or imagine.
Don’t be cheap nor sell yourself cheap. That’s not God’s will for you.