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A Prayer to God for help – Pastors’ Wives

A prayer to God for help – Pastors’ Wives –
when you feel despair and anxiety.

Yeah. Pastors wives get stressed.

Pastors wives feel stress.

Pastors wives feel overwhelm.

Anyone who says otherwise is full of peanut butter! Life gets hard for us and we have dig from depression or oppression just like everyone else. I can tell you, when I feel that way I’ve only found ONE way out.

It is RUNNING to God in prayer. It’s not praying to feel deep or ritualistic. It’s the praying that is like life to my spirit. It’s the praying that keeps me from hurting someone’s feelings or yelling at my kids (sometimes). 🙂

Praying the Word of God is the most powerful tool we have as Christians. When we pray according to God’s Word, we see results. I thinks it’s because praying the Word instantly aligns us with His will.

His Word NEVER contradicts His will or His plan. A prayer to God for help must be done in faith knowing He knows what’s best in the long run. If we think we know what’s best, it’s like asserting that we don’t need Him.

That’s why I penned this blog post A prayer to God for help – Pastor’s wives – to help us remember we need His help.

Praying for others

People will often come to you for prayer just because you’re married to the pastor. It’s not at all uncommon to be put in this position. It’s really a blessing to be of service in this way -to intercede and pray along side a Christian sister.

While I’m on that note, if at all possible, make sure any men that need prayer go to your husband or the deacons.  I know you know that, but I wanted to say it. 🙂

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It’s better to pray from God’s perspective and not carnal desires.

Praying exclusively from our own desires can prompt us to pray selfish, one-sided prayers.

Sometimes, if we don’t know God’s word, we can even pray sinful prayers and be ignorant enough to hope they will to come true.

Let me give you an example: a lonely woman could pray a man divorces his wife so she can marry him. That is not a Godly prayer.

God has ordained and blessed marriage. Divorce is not His ideal for us. Why would God answer that kind of prayer.

Another person could pray to get rich for greedy reasons. We are not to be greedy, why would God answer such a prayer? No good.

Do you get what I’m saying? Growing in the Word helps us pray the Word. Gotta know it.

Know what it means. Read it. Study it. Then you can pray the Word of God with authority, confidence and in accordance to God’s will. Make sense?

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No abracadabra..Poof!

To be clear, the Word is not a “lucky” charm in itself. You can’t just twist it to make it mean whatever you want.

My post today is about praying for yourself. So I’ll shift gears here.

Before I continue, remember what Pastor G Allen Jackson from Intend Ministries says: “Despair is a spirit that visits you”.

I agree.  Just because it visits doesn’t mean we have to keep it around.  Amen. Prayer is our key out. So is worship and prayer.

Sometimes,  it’s easier to pray for others than it is for ourselves.

Thank God the Holy Spirit intercedes for US! Either with us or via a prayer partner.

Other time a simple guide helps us pray. I love devotional with a prayers included at the end of the thought or chapter.

This prayer is similar. It’s perfect when your spirit is tired and your mind is spent. It is rich with God’s Word . Scroll down to see the scriptural references at the end of the prayer.

Here it is:

Dear, Sweet, Lord,

Thank you for being my High Tower that I can run to and find safety. It seems so many run to me. Thank you, Lord, I can run to you.

Just like the Psalmist , Lord, I’m seeking you and I know you hear me. Please deliver me from all these fears and anxieties.

Life can be so hard as a pastor’s wife. But, it’s ok. As people look to me, I look to You. I cast my cares on you because you care for me.

Nothing is too hard for You.

That’s why I trust in You and not in what I feel, think, hear or imagine.

I’m not surprised by this hard season. You said the world would be hard and even full of tribulation, but that I shouldn’t worry because you already overcame it all for me. I can sigh in relief knowing that nothing surprises you.

Sometimes it feels like my flesh is failing. I can feel tired both inside and out. But, even in that, I know You are the strength of my heart.

Thank you for helping me, Lord. Thank you for promising to take me by the “hand” and help me. That’s why I won’t fear people. What in the world can that do to me when I put my trust in You? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!

So, I am going to stop thinking so much, stop running around looking for comfort from people. Instead, I’m going to be still, knowing you are my God and you will take care of me now, today and tomorrow.

Whatever happens, I trust You and love you, Lord. Even if I don’t get my prayers answered the way I want, I am determined to trust you. Just as a child doesn’t always know what is best for himself and must trust their parents, I trust you.

Lord, I don’t want to be like a silly child wanting to play on a busy street. Kicking and screaming as their loving parent removes them from danger. No, I don’t want to be like that child. I will trust your decisions – all of them.

I want to trust you regardless of what happens in my life KNOWING you know what is best for me and those I love. Thank you for taking care of me. Thank you for covering me.
My faith is in you.

In Jesus’ Name…

Check out my prayer points for pastors’ wives.

Scripture References for this prayer for when you feel despair:

Proverbs 18:10
Psalm 34:4
John 16:33
Luke 1:37
Psalm 73:26
Isaiah 41:13
Psalm 56:4

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  1. Is there a support group for Elder’s wives, where do we fit? Our husband is not the Pastor, but we face some of the same challenges.

    1. I agree. I’m not sure. At my church I lead a ministry for the women married to ministers/pastors at our church. That support is invaluable. If it doesn’t exist in your church, maybe God will lead you to start one? I’ll soon be blogging about some of the things we do and discuss.

      Thanks for commenting and subscribe or check back so you won’t miss the ideas. Maybe some might work for you to do with the elders wives at your church? 🙂

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