You may have heard about the controversy facing the founders of the Christian television network, Daystar. Joni and Marcus Lamb appeared on “Good Morning America” to make a statement about the trouble.
I won’t go into details, but there is a possibility that Joni Lamb covered her husband’s failure for at least a year. By “covered”, I mean she didn’t disclose it.
Needless to say, the world is laughing at Christians again, but frankly, I applaud her.
Her role is akin to that of a senior pastor’s wife. Essentially, she was the counter-part to a mate that occupied the highest senior responsibility in a church-like ministry.
Ministers’ Wives, Sr. Pastors’ Wives
I won’t make too many distinctions between ministry wives although they exist. A husband in full-time ministry is completely different than one in a part-time role. Neither is better than the other, but the sacrifice and the knowledge levels are not the same. Senior pastors’ wives often bear tremendous burdens and data that no other breathing person can know.
I’ll bet you can probably relate to often being the only one in the church that knows secrets, visionary directions and major problems. That’s a load, but God gives grace.
Back to Joni.
I applaud Joni Lamb because she took the Word to heart in that she didn’t go “public” although she may have had a right to do so. She allowed love to cover sins that were really not anyone else’s business. We don’t know her secret pain. We don’t know the struggle she had about going public (or not).
But, Joni didn’t do that. She taught us an important lesson. Lord knows, I don’t condone what her husband did. But, that’s her business – not ours.
Again, as a senior pastor’s wife, you too are privy to much. In addition to the myriad of secrets you learn, you also may bear the knowledge (or burden) of your husband’s frail humanity outside the pulpit.
Wisdom check: there are times when you may have to ‘blow the whistle” (i.e. in cases of redundant secret sin, theft or anytime others are being hurt or harmed).
But, if no one is harmed but you (as in Joni’s case) the decision is yours and you should be led by the Lord. Again, hurtful sins of abuse should never be covered – that’s an entire different situation than two consenting adults.
Be careful spreading your business in the church, instead pray for confidants (ideally outside your church) to be part of your network. God has blessed me with a wonderful, strong support group that gives me prayers, advice and courage. I hope you’ll pray for Him to send similar relationships to you so you don’t feel the need to vent your personal business all over the church.
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. Prov. 31:11
Pray for Joni Lamb today.